Love is not caused, it is
Never before in the history of humanity has it been so important to have a change of heart—to release the concept of having love and accept the concept of being love. Love is not caused, it is. This change can occur only when we take our hearts into ourselves and discover love as a state of being, of oneness, and of wholeness. We must release the concept of having love. We must see that our pursuit of love as a reward or as acceptance is conditional and futile, and it does not produce well being. Well being is perceiving love as wholeness and releasing the perception of love as a reward. Love is not caused, it is.
The conditional concepts of caring have been confused by what we know as acts of love from the having mode. When love becomes something we have, it ceases to be lovable and becomes a possession. Its objects feel confined, controlled and imprisoned. When we think of love as a state of having, love gets placed automatically in the past and we become fearful of change, thus promoting possessive and addictive behavior.
When we recognize love as wholeness and come to know the source of love from within, we are in a constant state of self-increasing renewal. We experience ourselves as free, self-determined, self-reliant and whole and allow others the same right. Oneness transpires when we fall in love with ourselves. Separateness dissipates. I am reminded of Nancy Tappe’s most powerful words; “Love is a principle, not a practice. Love is a state of being in which you exist, not what you do, how you act or who you are with.”
If you are reading this today, you are being asked to see where you are looking for love outside yourself and not connecting to the idea that you are already love even when you don’t know it.